The Jealousy Cop-Out

    So many folks write blogs ranting and raving about life, present writer included. I haven't produced a new blog in a while because I was trying to get away from that trend, but then I noticed this common pattern again and again and thought to myself "this is a hell of a month to quit bitching!" So, in deciding I'm not quite ready to travel outside the realm of such a popular writing template...thunder cats are go (thanks Juno)!!!!


My current rant is about a very human tendency. Yes, a very human, very common tendency that I may even have been guilty of a few times myself, but that still gets on my nerves. This is the tendency to paint someone the awful green of envy for not liking what you have to say. It is, for all intents and purposes, what I refer to as "the jealousy cop-out". You know what I mean right? Just in case, I'll explain. For a poorly executed example, just follow the bouncing ball (otherwise known as an ellipsis)...

Person A does not like the comment of Person B. Person A may say something about said comment, as in "I hate that_______" or "It really bothers me when_________". You may fill in the blanks with whatever you choose. Person B's reaction? Oh, Person A is just jealous of me. Really? Are we five? Is this high school? That is your automatic reaction? It couldn't possibly be that Person A just really doesn't like or agree with your current thought process, it must be that he or she covets what you have! Ah ha! You've solved the frickin' case Sherlock! Well, I'm sorry, but jealousy, or what some may refer to as "hating" (again, really?) is not always the obvious answer for someone's dislike of another's thoughts, comments, or beliefs. There are those occasional times where not having an intense appreciation for a current bitch fest means nothing more than -gasp- not having appreciation for a current bitch fest! Let it be exactly what it is: dislike! 2 + 2 = 4. Fact. I don't like your comments = I want your life. Not a fact. No human being is ever going to feel sympathy (or empathy) for every single thing that bothers others, especially if that irritation revolves around something that seems trivial or meager or even selfish within the grand scheme of things. Now, does this mean that Person B doesn't have the right to be annoyed because those annoyances are possibly trivial? Of course it doesn't, but the same people (those damn B's!) screaming "hater" must also realize that anyone who does find those complaints to be silly or ridiculous is also well within his or her rights to do so (Go A's go!). The automatic accusation of jealousy is nothing more than a childish attempt to mask the fact that another's distaste in your reactions made you feel stupid, silly, or perhaps superficial.

   I'm not naive or stupid enough to believe that jealousy doesn't sometimes (and too often) have an evil root in the tree of life, but I am confident enough to say that it is not the fuel behind every fire of dislike. So, in closing, get over yourselves B people, we A's are not all jealous of you and we don't want your life. We just sometimes think you're full of shit. Case closed.